“You kinda need to have someone, you know. Not necessarily be in a relationship, but yeah.. We’ll soon be in final year.. You need to have someone.”
That was said to me by a classmate/friend the other day in class. The topic of marriage/relationships had come up somehow (I forget how), and I had commented of my lack of a significant other and the fact I was in no hurry to get said person.
He seems to disbelieve me…. Aren’t you in your 20’s already and with medicine, you know how it is….

And I do. Medicine is a demanding mistress, expecting 100% commitment and involvement without the assurance of… (Certain success. Synonym). However the notion of having someone because my biological clock was looming over my head was not a particular worry of mine.
And not because I’m not worried about said biological clock running out on me, because I do have those days;
but,
I’m not about to start a relationship because I’m afraid of said biological clock running out on me. I’m in the camp of:
“I’m going to strive to be the best version of myself – because I can”…
Working on my writing, exploring my interests, making meaningful friendships, furthering my medical career, taking care of my body, getting close again with God…
And if in all of that, I find a life partner : all well and good. And if not?… That’s fine too.
It’s possible to have a fulfilling life sans boy,girlfriend/spouse, and with I refuse to have anyone tell me otherwise.
[On my parent’s part, they have yet to succumb to the stereotypical “soooo, is there anyone we should know about?” question.
My Mother stalks me sufficiently enough on social media to be kept up-to-date and my Dad’s focus is mostly on my academic achievements, so we’ve never had the conversation. I’m quite glad for this.]
Ps, if I’m near about to die of baby-fever, I’d adopt a baby…. The end.
Totally Relateable ….
Thanks for writing on this topic and sharing your thoughts .
KEEP IT UP❤❤❤❤
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(Yay!) I’m glad you enjoyed reading it…
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Wow! This is Wonderful!
I too will strive to be the best version of myself because I Can!
Welldone dear
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Great!… (and thank you 😊)
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I’m still not sure how hard it is to accept that some people have the ability to be happy while single. I’ve had someone tell me I was faking it when I said I have no interest in having a whole man to myself. I feel like that’s a lot of responsibility and I’m not in the place where I thought I could handle that anymore. 🤷🏻♀️
I wish people who are in relationships all the best but I have made peace with the fact that I’m probably not built for serious relationships.
I’m talking too much. Okay. Bye.
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(Exactly!).. Some of us are meant to be “Peters” and some of us “Pauls”..
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Nice piece…!!!
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Thank you! 😊
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Jeez! Most days when I’m being real with myself I actually am okay with no partner but I live in Nigeria and my mum has succumbed to the questions so on bad days I feel really pressured! Also adoption is such a wonderful idea I hope to actualize, today is a good day and I’m glad I am not alone in this thought 🙂 thanks babe😘
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Lol.. No, we’re in this together 😊😄.. Honestly, I’m all about just being the best I can be and letting what may happen – happen.. (And yeah, adoption deserves waay more positive promo than it gets)
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This is literally how I feel. Medicine is stressful plus having someone that will now have issues plus additional stress on top. I can’t oo. This biological clock stuff … there are different ways to make a child possible. Am not going to stress myself due to pressure from family just to get married. What if after a year you start regretting. There is no rush for forever with someone!!!
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Exactly.. was literally having the “different ways to make children” conversation with a friend yesterday.. she was so beset against the idea of surrogacy 😆..
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